Since this has happened, there has not been a day that I dont talk about it with him. Its crazy-making. This is where men and women differ, her idea of dealing with it is not the same as a mans idea, hence escorts etc! Now while I was pregnant with our 3rd child, I didnt have an ounce of libido. So, I called the number and it was a female his age. To learn more from Gary Neuman, readhis bookThe Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It. I only know the brother and a couple other sisters of his. He knew how he hurt me. He did not answer his phone, so I called her phone and asked where he was. I dont have proof that an affair actually happened, but evertime I have looked on his phone he has messages telling the other female she is sexy etc. I dont think I will ever forgive him for what he put me through and yet he says i was unsupportive and ungrateful for him trying to earn a living! I confronted him but he says that the lady asked him to text that so that she could make his boyfriend jealous, I dont believe this at all, on top of that he has been sex texting with his ex girlfriend telling her how he love her p***y and would like to cum in actually he asked her if she can preserve herself for him until she come back, I feel devastated, he does not admit to it, all he says I know you dont believe me but that the truth. It took my friend 6 years to forgive her husband and learn to trust him again after he cheated. Also, I believe most wives are shocked to find out their husbands are cheating on them. He had been acting weird more secretive than usual, especially with his cell phone. Once you get through that you will feel good and be empowered. The study found little difference in rates of infidelity reported by men and women (23 and 19 per cent, respectively). I cant even say i understand my husband anymore. Then he got into this role playing game second life online and he is maintaining relationships with women who play this game. (The lube was apparently so he could get some alone time)?? Too bad for him cause hes in his undies, lol. Any advice? The sad part is I want my kids to have a mommy and daddy under one roof. I asked him to tell me the truth and he told me he was busy. only during times when I was not at home, or while he was at work. I have given everything. Its why so many say YESSSS to doing the no no. As, the more you bottle up your feelings, the more likely you are to snap and have a breakdown which is far from what you need at the moment. I am having panic attacks all the time. I pray for strength and courage as you make decisions about your marriage. I am in a VERY similar situation: married for 1.5yrs, been together for 5. (He has a very chill job and usually wore sweats) well Up until 3 weeks ago. The only reason I found out was because I accidentally stumbled across the messages. But after 3 months I gave him another chance and because of some other personal things his mom asked me to live with them because I had no where else to go. Linda, you dont have to go anywhere to buy a tracker. Analyze your behavior. He eventually messaged me on fbook through one of his friends accounts bc he doesnt have fbook. I do not know what your story is or how I could even help you. I dont know about anyone else but I find it really strange that a man in his late 50s has these 19, 21, 32 and 46 year old female friends that 1) I dont know any of them other than the 19 year old, 2) that he goes to dinner with on a regular basis and 3) is out every single night. I finally asked again-he says: just forget it, there is no one. She loses. A year now and 3 months. My neighbor husband is cheating on his wife throughout their marriage. ago Please get tested ASAP. And bingo!!! Two days after he returned to work and stopped at her relatives house where she was. Hi. Let me know how it goes.I hope youre misreading his behaviorbut your instincts will lead you to the truth. He bought a smart phone and has security lock on it which make me so curious. May you find healing and peace, especially if you know for sure that your husband is lying about cheating. Never feel weak going to your doctor as youre not coping, simply sit down and explain what has happened with your husband and marriage. i confronted him he says she is like a little sister to him and he feels when they r out of town he has to protect her from weird guys. Do what you would tell someone you love to do in the same situation. Beyond Affairs. Am so heart broken, our marriage is not even up to a year. When I had an affair I used intimate words. He didnt return any of my calls. So my husband (of 2 years married, 5 together, son together) was caught cheating with his baby momma(who is scum and a horrible mother) he didnt want to admit it. CHEATING!!!!!! please give me some advice. Thats how I caught u husband cheating on me. I have cheated as well and Im more than willing to disclose my infidelities while we were together. Theyll survive and bounce back kids are resilient especially if you maintain a healthy, strong attitude. This left me confused because since I gave birth to our son I have lost 40lbs, found a job that pays me will, not well enough to support us without his help, and I have taken steps to continue my education. She was also pentecostal and stopped wearing skirts, started wearing make up and cut her hair. Take this quick quiz that looks at whether he actually likes you or not! We had bbqs at each others houses, bonfires, and they went out on our boat with us, 1 time she even brought her kids whom my husband payed a lot of attention too. I am 44 years old we have been together for 26 years. Well I broke it to him that if we are going to work he cannot hurt me anymore because if he does I will walk out and he can never get me back. After they graduated from the University, the girl left for another country but my husband still maintained contact with her. just leave him. Its hard to explain a gut feeling! But, he did. However, if you can work through that pain and betrayal to keep your marriage working, it only shows how strong you are as a person. It bothered me that he did not mention this to me when we were introduced and I knew nothing of this woman the whole time we have been married. Perhaps the main reason behind my husband thinks he does nothing wrong is the need to defend himself. Im sorry for what you went through with your husband. We were together about a year when he left. So you can move on and steer clear of losers like this. You need anything else or any other device or want to contact me just let me know. He admitted after dropping me off at the airport, he went to work on his day off, listened to her voicemail to retrieve her number. He has robbed me of my what used to be a happy life!! I then started finding dating site profiles for him..so he was confronted about this he did deny until I told him I was going to call the number,truth came out .We started going to consoling together and he found out about many of my past problems with abuse and rapes..he knew I needed help . Hi Im 28weeks pregnant and my husband and I have not slept in the same bed or even same room for months. Its sad the authorities only think he wants to see his son and that I must be the problem since he was beating me. Thanks for the book suggestion! We fought and fought. My husband denied it, said I was crazy and he would never cheat on me. 6 years ago I caught my husband talking to another woman on the cell phone. You can read more about me. Then my husband finally confessed that they were having virtual sex (he swears nothing physical happened). he just does according to him. ok, my bf and i have been togetherf for almost 5yrs now. With her Facebook page full of selfies with her and other men. Why do you suspect your husband is cheating what are the signs hes lying to you? Part 1: Not Knowing What Happened. How she would love to believe it is all in her head. I had phone records for 2 years that showed a pattern of them talking extensively on a constant basis seven days a week 24-7. He even wiped his Ipad from everything you possibly can wipe. That does include pets. A text came in on his phone that read Sorry about our fight today. So, unfortunately it brings us to men having a very strong need to roam, to see, to fantasize and woman have an even stronger instinct to feel. Tracey,my name is Linda my heart goes out to u but would like to know where to purchase the phone tracker from as I have been trying to find one to link to my husbands phone as I feel he is cheating on me too but hides everything and deletes everything on his phone. It is possible to rebuild your marriage after cheating, but its just so heartbreaking. Never jump in a car and head to a friends house though, youll be in too much of an emotional state to drive safely. When I questioned my husband who this young lady was he said that its one of his co- workers sister and that the meet her through him. they refer to each other as baby. what i would advise you to do is to definitely read more about the subject and do your research before you convince yourself that youre just being a paranoind.. You can start by clicking on my nickname in the comment headline (Spouse Cheat) right now, D O N T T A L K T O H I M A B O U T I T ! I had found years ago where he was emailing two different people talking to them. I checked his phone and under the nameJelly was a ton of disturbing messages and pictures! Get out. Get psychologial help. As long as they deny it, they put you in a position where if you leave them for it you're being the bad guy by being 'paranoid'. Having an affair is just not adultery, it includes lying, deception and breaks a vow and trust between the couple. Do I confront him about the reactivation? I do not agree with the emotional and defensive reaction when you accuse him of cheating. I think in your mind, you knew he cheated. So over the weekend we went out with friends and this certain young lady was there. For kicks, Im going to take a picture of him asleep in our livingroom. Tells me as a VOLUNTEER FIREMAN & EMT, needs to respond to calls. I used to ignore these signs but they are very good indicators. One night out of bordom we decided to go out with some friends and a female friend was already to drunck and acting out. if he got fired from his job, and didnt tell you, thats the same. He has always been a salesperson. They found call logs, text messages and social media chats. Which she lives about 5-10 mins from his school. He doesn't mean it. My gut keeps saying my husband is unfaithful, but Im just not sure. I doubt that I will fully trust him again. That and Narsassistic Abuse!!! At first I thought nothing of it. Hey lost! What did you do are you still involved? In March of 09 my mother was diagnosed with cancer. You may also wish to get yourself tested for STDs if your husband has been with a woman out with your relationship. When you ask people for advice, you are asking them to judge your situation. I have been married for 17 yrs and found out about a year and half ago that my husband had two different women emailing him pictures of themselves naked. That he told her do to that. He said he had set this site up for his friend who he went to visit a few weeks ago. i just want to know the truth. later. I love it. The only question now is if you want to remain married to the man who is doing this to you & the kids. I welcome your thoughts. That man came just to hit.kick, boxing me in front of shopping centre. 2. I have always heard the accuser is usually the guilty one. Last year I created a false identity phoney picture etc. My prayers for your peace. I called both ladies and turns out he was having affairs with both women at the same time. I found strange underware but we all joked it off. We are dynamic creatures being women. This has made me just want to be dead. I am 4 months pregnant (im 21 years old now) and everything seemed to be completely flawless until this weekend passed. He said that if I keep accusing him that I will never get what I want from him. I think my husband has had an affair. I will never have the answers to so many questions because my husband doesnt respect or value me enough after 20+ years of love and devotion, to give me any answers so I can have some kind of closure. Could you call a support line, and talk this through with a counselor? Sure some where calls i heard radio traffic, but after it was over several hours later not home. He said he wanted to reconcile and I told him I didnt know if that was possible . He then got angry and said he was not like his father, who had left his mother for another woman. I sat it all the time, but remember this. He came out and told me he apologized said it was only one time and he felt so bad afterwards he didnt know what to do. Perhaps you feel you nagged him too much, or you didnt get dressed up to impress him as much because you were busy with the children. when I asked just in case for what he just shrugged and said you and me and went back to what he was doing. We have been together for 7 years and been married for 2 years+. Ive been selfish and I feel sorry for this women. There are TONS of good men. He was very critical of me 3. Thanks, Crazy Lady. We both are foreigners and it complicates things for our baby. People might seek out high-risk situations to help them become aroused, or they might choose to have sex with a partner outside of their regular relationship because they feel they have an out if the encounter doesnt go well they dont have to see them again.. 2. I am not buying things I dont need. We both live in the same building. He cannot give of himself. My daughter just gave us a beautiful grandchild, however her husband has not been interested in her physically since she got pregnant. No family time only myself and the kids, HELP ME!! I hope you do. His lover still works at the same work place than he does. I was devasted. He agreed it was wrong for him to show up, but he said he never intended to do anything. He put other people first. buy a gps on ebay .. $40 and the monthly subscription to track it is only $10 .. and/or put a sound activated recorder in his vehicle .. you are married so youre allowed. You know what you should do. he also gets upset if i wont let him go hang out with her by himself. nothing .. just dont pay him any attention.. thats the best way .. one day he will see what he lost if he really loves u.. act as if u dont care what he is doing , go out with friends and have a good time .. i promise the thoughts are still there and u wish he was there .. Do U!! He makes it sound like I am crazy and tells me not everything is about me! Am I crazy? When we talk about it he seems completely open and honest no strange body language or voice changes or anything. She wants to trust you, but your behavior is causing pain. I dont understand. NARCISSUS I didnt even know what that word meant until I Googled it. 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